Back in the day (my day, anyway),
Gladys Knight and the Pips released a song called Bourgeois Bourgeois. It wasn’t their typical fare but it was the 80’s
when, musically, many groups were being called upon to reinvent themselves.
I got a kick out of the words
that referenced the so-called Nouveau Riche who were from around‑the‑way but
were intent on leaving that past behind and doing a bit of reinventing of their
own.
While my angst surrounding being
betwixt and between this oxymoronic class clash has been well documented (see Middle Passage Part Two: The Talented Tenth
vs. Bebe’s Kids, Alli’s Two Cents,
April 17, 2011), being perceived as “bourgeois” has once again reared its head.
It’s a label I just can’t seem to
shake.
My posture has always been that I
pursue or embrace things or places because I enjoy them. Yet in spite of what I
have considered relatively benign choices, I’ve had friends and family tease me
for my so‑called “high‑end” preferences at the same time they would balk at the
notion of me shopping in certain so-called “ghetto malls” or being at ease
travelling in certain neighborhoods.
Maybe it’s my age but I’m over
chasing this image of what is good and right and proper and acceptable and am focusing on choosing what is genuine and authentic for me.
It’s not about being “bourgeois”
or “ghetto.” It’s about being allowed to BE.
As I mulled all of this over, I
thought of this real-time life lesson that drove the point home for me:
Last week my daughter and I were
on our way to an appointment when we discovered that our normal route was
packed with traffic.
In comes Miss “Let Me Handle This”
with her brainy iPhone that calculates an alternate route that gets us there in
perfect time.
At first I couldn’t wrap my head
around this alternate route but after piecing together the roads in my mind, it
finally came together for me because I have a very good sense of direction that
I inherited from my father.
Now this immediately strikes me
as comical because I have a friend who refuses to believe that I can find my
way out of a paper bag!
I’ve made the unfortunate mistake
of mentioning getting lost or turned around a time or two and he insists that I
need GPS. I steadfastly refuse, however, just like I insist on reading paper
books instead of getting a Nook or Kindle. (I recognize that these are battles
I will ultimately lose but for now, this is my story and I’m sticking to it.)
This friend has enjoyed many a
good-natured laugh at my expense and I can’t help but join in because the only
place he’s seen me get is lost! What I realized, however, is that his
perception doesn’t alter what I know to be true about myself – I do have a good
sense of direction, GPS or no.
So the moral of this story is I
can’t be worryin’ about what people say or think about me or the labels they
apply. Their perceptions ain’t my truth.
How’s that for improper?
And for the record, I maintain
that in addition to having a phenomenal sense of direction (ahem), everybody -
bourgeois, ghetto, or somewhere in between - just wants to – and should be
allowed to - BE.
Maybe it’s my age but I’m over chasing this image of what is good and right and proper and acceptable and am focusing on choosing what is genuine and authentic for me.
ReplyDeleteI steadfastly refuse, however, just like I insist on reading paper books instead of getting a Nook or Kindle. (I recognize that these are battles I will ultimately lose but for now, this is my story and I’m sticking to it.) My girl!!! I feel you on this one!
I love it!!!