Yesterday I had the honor and
privilege of attending the Women of Prince George’s County Second Annual
Women’s Conference themed, “Connecting the Dots Around the Beltway”.
I intentionally approached this
event with no expectations so that I could allow God to enrich me in the best,
most purposeful way.
And enriched I was indeed.
You see, I have stubbornly clung
to this erroneous belief that I am in no way an entrepreneur because I am such
a softy. I had a tough time imagining myself as a cold, hard business woman,
especially when I would survey the accomplishments of so many women-owned
businesses that are thriving in what can be a rough-and-tumble, male-dominated
world.
But yesterday confirmed that
there isn’t a vast difference between me and these women and what we do every
day.
I learned that these ladies simply
took a dream, passion or opportunity and made their way by putting one bold
foot in front of the other. Every day they are confronted with the same
challenges and obstacles I face; wrestle with making the same choices that I make;
and move forward one bold step at a time, just like I do.
They are me and I am them and God
is in us all as who we gloriously are.
I think we as women are learning
to embrace our natural inclination to come together and nurture and uplift one
another in the spirit of collaboration, a vastly different concept than networking.
We seem less inclined to fear one
another and have, instead, realized that keeping it real by candidly sharing
our triumphs and our failures empowers us to learn and to grow.
I like that.
Interestingly enough, as I was writing
this week’s post, the idea that stood out the most was how much is really in me
– in all of us – and how God gently yet persistently coaxes it out of us through
our life experiences.
Like how in The Wiz, Glenda the Good Witch pointed out to Dorothy that she had
the power to go home (bring herself back to herself) right under her nose all
along.
Sometimes we have to take the
scenic route in order to realize that what we want we already have within. And
sometimes all we need is a good coach to nudge us out of our shell.
It brought to mind my current job,
where I was hired by the best manager I have ever had – a woman who was an
expert at mentoring as well as collaboration. She would ask for my input,
actually listen to it, and incorporate it into our processes, all while sharing
the load. This, of course, is a very different approach from the traditional top-down
management model that is slowly (thankfully) becoming a thing of the past.
With her headquartered 3,000 miles away in our home office, I didn’t want to imagine navigating
this distant, rocky terrain without her expert guidance. However, I would be
forced to do just that soon enough
She moved on to bigger and better
things just six months after hiring me but I soon realized that this was God’s
way of saying, “You’ve had a great start – now it’s time for you to do you.”
God has always been like that
with me: I only get to have my hand held for so long when, just like a baby bird,
I get booted out of the nest so I can fly in my own glorious way.
I used to panic when these natural
progressions would occur. But now I no longer view them as pass-fail tests of my mettle but a revealing
of a self I may be tempted to hide if I was always standing in someone else’s shadow.
I learned that like a watchful
loving parent, God is me, in me, as me and that He / She delights in watching
me come into my own.
He / She also refuses to let me
play small.
I have come to see that a big
part of this life journey involves God reminding me Who I Am and honoring my
true identity, much in the same way I insist on knowing the real name
of all of the wonderful Asian brothers and sisters who take such good care of my hands,
feet, and eyebrows. It may seem like a small thing but I always say to them, “I
know your name is not Tracy/Mike/Tina – tell me who you really are.”
So yesterday’s event gave me the
opportunity to enjoy the company of like-minded sisters who honor their voice as
well as their gifts and talents by refusing to play small and encouraging us
all to do the same. I learned that, at one time or another, we all have the
same questions, doubts, and palpitating heart but we feel the proverbial fear
and do it anyway.
And should we stumble and fall
along the way, we have God in us and others around us to remind us to just do
what the old song says:
Pick yourself up, dust yourself
off, and start all over again J